Through a rapist’s eyes

Hey friends,
So sorry its been a while I posted something up here….Been so busy with a lot and well thats the life of a fashion designer,mother,wife,daughter,daughter-in law,sister and friend….just so much going on and as u well know you can’t be found wanting in any.*sighs*

Was going through my facebook page and found this write up and thought to share. The part that caught my attention the most was about ladies with long hair. Lmao.
Anyway,lemme let you read up yourselves….

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post.
‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.




As you well know there can be no fashion without you so please let’s all be very careful in our daily activities.

Its about fashion and all that comes with it 😀




Fashionably Married

A friend sent me this write-up some months back, I came across it today and decided to share it with my loyal readers.

(1) Find the right person: If you are single, you don’t want to ‘mis-marry’. Compromise will only hurt in the end.
If you are married, you have found the right one already;) . If you don’t like what you found, you simply have work to do

(2) Be open to each other: Every time you cover up now, something will stink in the future

(3) Be honest with your spouse: This includes saying what is true but not palatable. Of course, say it in a way that builds & not in a derogatory way

(4) Carry your spouse along in the implementation of your dreams. He/she is equipped to support you through the high and low times

(5) Make out time for your spouse: No matter how busy you get, he/she comes first and then others follow

(6) Be quick to forgive: Absorbed anger is poison you cook to eat alone and die alone. Remember, its the action you disapprove of not the person

(7) Be Committed: through all challenges, all temptations, all disagreements… keep telling yourself it will work cause you have made up your mind that it will.
—» By Jimi Tewe

Added by me:

Just say it

Just say it

Posted from WordPress for BlackBerry.

Am sorry: Most people find it really hard to say those two words and all it does is make a difficult situation easily solved…we all know its hard to give in on those heated arguments but really it won’t take out a strand of hair on our heads. So let’s adopt the act of saying “Am Sorry” even when we are very sure we are right.

And lastly,
Always look good…no man wants to come home to a wife with wrapper tied on her breast. I was soo guilty of this till I gained wisdom (X_X loool).. Be sure to make your hair,dress well and stay fit…If u aint sure of how to go about this that’s why we are here..let’s hook u up with a look or two 😉

When your mind says give up, hope whispers one more try.

Its all about fashion and all that comes with it


Cecili :*

To get in touch with Jimi Tewe:
Click on this link :
Or call : +234-70-4333-3041

Made in Nigeria

Cecili Bag (Made in Nigeria)

Cecili Bag (Made in Nigeria)

A thought crossed my mind some few weeks back and I already shared it with a group of designers but thought to share it with you my dear readers as well.

Why would Nigerians rather patronize international brands than our own Nigerian brands even when we deliver as good or even better products.
I was discussing with a client who said she loves Nigerian designs but won’t buy them cos they are too expensive and she gave an example of tops/blouses she buys in the uk which go for between the range of N1500 and N3000 only for her to get here and find Nigerian products at higher rates..

How do we handle these issues,that is,how do we give you the best of quality and yet sell at affordable prices??

Here are some answers I could come up with for now:

Electricity: In most countries,they have electricity 24/7 and here in Nigeria we rarely have power for 4hours non-stop. We have to run a generating set the whole day and as we know fuel is now gold in a country that produces it 😦 We spend close to N2000 to N4000 per day on fuel just to meet up with our lovely clients orders.
Please let’s appeal to our government to give us the electricity they’ve been promising us for years 😦

Fabrics/Materials: The rate at which fabrics and materials are expensive now is crazyyyyy and for some of us who want to give our clients the very best have to go for expensive fabrics at all cost. Some of us even go the extra length as traveling out of the country to get quality fabrics in large quantity.
If only we have more companies producing fabrics here in Nigeria but am sure we’ll get there very soon.

If you’ve got more answers on ways to solve this issue at hand kindly drop your comments.

Finally,let’s be proud of our own and patronize our Nigerian designers 🙂

Its all about fashion and all that comes with it 😉


Cecili :*

Posted from WordPress for BlackBerry.

Mix and Miss of Ankara

Hey fashionistas,

Think its time I start writing something up on here since it seems everyone is writing this days and as you know ,I no dey carry last *wink*

Took me about 15minutes to figure out a name for this post(that’s for you all to know am very new at this)

So here it is….

Ladies I know how lovely they are but we really need to cool down a bit on matching them up….one or two is perfect…no need going on with ankara head piece, bangles, earrings,dress,purse and shoe and end up looking like a fabric advert…just a piece or two is perfect for that fashion statement you looking out for…

So let’s kip rocking the african prints trend ladies 😉

Thank me later *wink*

So watch dis space for more write ups on fashion and all that comes with it….



Posted from WordPress for BlackBerry.

Ankara turban and neckpiece

Ankara turban and neckpiece

Turban. By Cecili
Neckpiece by Elleleroske